When trying to get pregnant, there are some important considerations for you to think about in the baby making process.
Before Trying – Timing
The timing of your baby making is likely the most important part in you getting pregnant. Around your point of ovulation is the best time to attempt to conceive. So it is essential that you are able to predict when you expect to ovulate, you can read more about this here.
Once you have determined when you expect to ovulate, it will give you a window of opportunity and fertility. You will be fertile ‘on’ and for around 5 days before your ovulation. Sperm can survive for up to 5 days; however, the ovum has to be fertilised within 24 hours of being released. To stand the best chances of conception you are advised to have sex 1 or 2 days before you ovulate and again on the day of ovulation. In which case, there is plenty of sperm waiting around to fertilise the egg as soon as it’s released.
Since your ovulation point is key, you might want to consider using a digital ovulation prediction monitor to give you the most accurate measure of your exact ovulation time. This way you can rest assured that you are attempting at the optimum times for pregnancy. It works similarly to a pregnancy test in that you pee on the stick, which then analyses the levels of hormones in your urine to determine the stage within your cycle. It will highlight your most fertile time.
From personal experience, I can recommend the Clearblue Fertility Monitor. There are many on the market, but the Clearblue Fertility monitor can identify the days before you ovulate as well as ovulation. This widens the window of opportunity to conceive. It monitors two vital hormones in the lead up to ovulation, luteinizing hormone (LH) and oestrogen. LH rises sharply when you ovulate – most ovulation kits detect the rise in LH and identify ovulation. The Clearblue Fertility Monitor also tracks oestrogen levels, which start to rise a few days before ovulation. Knowing that you are fertile a few days earlier means you can have more attempts to conceive.
Before Trying – Frequency
When it comes to your most fertile stage of your cycle, around ovulation, you might think it beneficial to have as much sex as possible to increase your chances of becoming pregnant. But did you know it is possible to be having too much sex?
Sex too frequently will reduce a man’s sperm count. It is important to allow the sperm count a chance to recover to its highest levels in between attempts. Subsequently you give yourself a better opportunity to conceive. Which is why it is advised to have sex every other day (not every day) when baby making.
As discussed above, timing is everything. You will also want to keep the sex part fun; too frequently and on demand could make it a chore.
Before Trying – Lubricants
If possible don’t use additional lubricants. The vagina is a hostile place as it is for sperm (read more about vaginal PH levels). Some lubricants are known to slow down the sperm in its task to find the egg. So ensure your vaginal canal has a clear path for the sperm to achieve its goal. Also, some lubricants may contain sperm-aside to kill off sperm.
During – Position
Sadly no proof has been gained in any particular position offering more chance of a resulting pregnancy than another. This is discussed in more detail here, best positions to get pregnant.
However it is believed that the missionary position may offer a more optimum environment to conceive. The sperm can be deposited deeper inside, close to the cervix, reducing the distance for the sperm to travel. Side-by-side and entry from behind positions also offer this deeper penetration closer to the cervix.
Almost all positions can result in conception, but you may wish to discount positions with the female on top while trying to get pregnant. The effects of gravity could hinder the sperm in swimming up stream. This is not specifically proven though.
During – Female Orgasm
You might have heard rumours that you are more likely to conceive if the female also reaches orgasm. Is it true? Well it’s not proven to be the case, and may not make a difference. The contractions during orgasm may assist in drawing the sperm through the cervix to their arrival in the fallopian tubes, but this is not confirmed. Sperm are quite good swimmers by themselves and usually have no trouble finding their way with or without female orgasm. During female orgasm, a very alkaline cervical mucus is discharged, which attracts the similarly alkaline sperm. Another factor that could aid conception, but not proven.
Afterwards – Lying down after sex
Again you might have heard advice to stay lying down for a while afterwards, allowing the sperm chance to make its way through your body. It’s not strictly necessary, and has no evidence to support it.
Each deposit contains millions of sperm. They move very quickly towards their goal. It takes just a few minutes to reach the fallopian tubes ready to fertilise the egg. With so many sperm around, you stand a good chance of them making it through with or without lying down afterwards.
Having said this, if you wish to stay lying on your back afterward it won’t do you any harm, and who knows it may help. If you do stay lying down, you could try using a pillow to lift your hips to create a downward angle. This should provide a flow to help the sperm and will assist in keeping the sperm in. But don’t worry if some of the sperm flows out, this does not lessen chances.
We hope everything goes well for you.