It was panic stations this morning as Jen for some reason decided to ovulate 5 days early. 5 days! After umpteen months of monitoring body temperature and as a failsafe, using a fertility monitoring kit, we thought we were well prepared and able to predict Jen’s monthly cycle. Her cycle length has been mostly consistent at around 32 days for numerous months of tracking, give or take the odd longer or shorter cycle by a day. This is the first month we are actively trying to get pregnant, so we have tried to plan everything to the letter.
Then this morning Jen did her usual morning routine. It goes, wake up, get up, morning pee on the ovulation stick, jump in the shower, jump out the shower and read the indicator on the ovulation monitor. Fully expecting a reading of low, as it should have been for 2 more days, before changing to high, then peak at ovulation, but no. She viewed a peak reading meaning she is likely to ovulate today, can you imagine the look of shock and surprise. Of course it shouldn’t have been such a big deal as the day of ovulation is one of the better days to conceive. But not for us this time.
As you may or may not know, one of the most crucial parts of getting pregnant is the timing (there is more detail in the article). Knowing when you are going to ovulate helps you time your baby making to offer the best chance to conceive. Planning the timing is something we spent a long time researching and preparing for. Using the fertility monitor and Jen’s body temperature changes we had everything planned, the days to try, the days to rest and day of ovulation.
But early ovulation really wasn’t something we envisaged or planned for. And certainly something we hadn’t considered possible. Naively of course.
Without sugar coating it, we had sex last night as part of our planned schedule. It was a few days before expected ovulation. With Jen’s ovulation happening early, it disrupted our schedule. But why is this unplanned occurrence important? As I said timing is everything! The advice goes, to have sex a couple of days before ovulation and then again on the day of ovulation. It’s important to leave a rest day to allow the man’s sperm to regenerate to maximum levels otherwise having a low sperm count could affect the chances of conception. As ovulation day is the best time to conceive, having sex the night before wasn’t too helpful. And not to mention today Jen is away on a business trip over night making any further attempts impossible.
But to be honest, this wasn’t the biggest issue for us here.
Sperm can live for around 5 days so there is still a good chance we could become pregnant. Our concern is, timing is not only crucial to conceive in the first place, but also the major contributing factor when hopefully trying to conceive a particular gender.
Again timings of intercourse were carefully planned to take these factors into account. The timing is so critical to us as it has a massive impact when trying to influence gender.
To give you a very, very quick overview, if you are trying to conceive a girl you should stop having sex a few days before ovulation and if you would like a boy you should have sex on the day of ovulation. There are some quite convincing biological reasons for this, which we will go into, in more detail, in a later post.
So ovulating early has quite a big impact! It puts all our timings into jeopardy. We can only hope that with all that’s happened we still manage to get pregnant as soon as possible, at the end of the day this is the most important thing. We still hopefully stand a chance. It just goes to show, you can plan all you like but it doesn’t always help. Even if you know the likely time when you are most fertile, it doesn’t always go to plan.
Update – Jen has done some research into the reading of the fertility monitor, which you can read in her post on early ovulation and timing.